Hey Reader,

Welcome to our new Ask a Business Manager series.

We're taking your questions and responding to them through the lens of our work as a full-service business management agency.

Today’s question was posted in the Millionaire Author Mastermind Facebook group, and used by us with permission from the original poster.

The question:

The response:

Cristina here.

Clearly you're not alone on this!!

I remember reading Tessa Bailey's post about something similar and wanting to share so many thoughts.

So, five thoughts to share here, as a non-author who works with authors:

1. Have you heard of the book The Gap and the Gain? It’s great for high-achievers experiencing what you're talking about! It's really about retraining your brain on how you view your success. It takes active intervention but it's so worth it.

2. In our business, we use an assessment with our clients called the 5 types of ROI. It's a way to look at what you're really trying to maximize in your life and business, to ensure that your decisions are aligned with your real priorities—not what you think they should be. Click here to read about the 5 types of ROI—positive emotions, social capital, money, impact, and time—and why they matter.

3. One of my clients created a concept: Achievement Dysmorphia. I feel like when you see the phrase, you know if you have it! It's about not being able to feel and internalize your successes. She doesn't currently work with authors, but we would love to bring her in for a workshop one day. (Note to you, Reader: Click here to express your interest in that workshop! If it takes you to a GIF, it worked!)

4. Sometimes the issue is not the goal itself, but the way in which the goal was achieved. So maybe you hit a big milestone but you don’t like how it felt along the way or the trade-offs you made. That can influence the way you feel when you finally accomplish the goal.

The solution is to start proactively asking yourself: “How do I want to feel in the process of completing this goal?” And see how your day-to-day way of operating shifts!

5. A lot of coaches will tell you to try to eliminate the belief "I could have done better." But as a high-achiever, the reality is… you probably could have done better! So my advice is to not spend any energy trying to fight that thought; but instead to work on holding both your current successes AND the future goal at the same time.

Now we want to hear from you!

Can you relate to feeling this way about success? What has worked for you to address this? And which of the 5 things above resonated with you the most?

To success–without the ick 🙃

Cristina + Sara

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